
August 2020 was a particularly dark time in my life.
The world I thought I knew had completely disappeared. Like the rest of the world, I had been in lockdown for the past five months. The fear of catching COVID was central to almost every part of my life.
The simple things were no longer simple. You couldn’t just head to the store for groceries. You ordered ahead, or masked up, swallowed your anxiety, and braved the aisles of what, in the world before, had been one of the most benign places in your life. Seeing people on the street still generated a wave, but from a thoughtful distance. Seeing friends and family required appointments, planning, and a safe environment.
My isolation was a little different than most. When the pandemic lockdown hit on March 13, 2020, I was in Brazil celebrating a birthday with my wife. A two-week trip turned into four months of being marooned in a country where people were dying by the thousands and being buried in mass graves.
When I finally found a flight home, I faced one of the hardest decisions of my life. Stay in Brazil with the woman I loved, knowing that if I got sick I would be in a country where I didn’t speak the language and could find myself frightened, hospitalized, and alone. Or leave her behind and return home to Rosie, to a health-care system I knew, and to a country that—at least at that moment—seemed to be coping somewhat better.
I left.
But not without a lot of tears, a promise from my wife that she would soon join me, and a load of guilt that did not abate until she finally arrived in the United States.
And then my best friend of nearly forty years died during COVID. His son, unable to cope with the isolation of the pandemic, his father’s death, and his own demons, died shortly thereafter.
I am, by choice, an optimist. Yes. I am the person who looks at a glass half full of water and says, “It’s full. Just not all with water.” But by August 2020, it was getting harder every day to remain positive and upbeat—to retain the capacity to imagine the end of this thing.
Then came Ted Lasso.
It was a very unlikely story: an American football coach hired to lead a British football team. How was that going to resonate with audiences? Turns out, excuse the phrase, it was just what the doctor ordered.
Because Ted Lasso was never really a story about football, no matter which way you spell it. It was a story about a coach who preached positivity, decency, and belief—in yourself and in your teammates.
Ted’s optimism isn’t based on believing bad things won’t happen. Bad things happen constantly. His optimism is the refusal to allow what has happened to dictate what happens next.
“Be a goldfish”: forget your disappointments as quickly as you can. “Be curious, not judgmental”: remember that we all wallow in our own stew and that a little grace for people who see the world differently goes a long way. And my favorite: “I believe in hope. I believe in believe.” A reminder that without hope we are lost, and belief is one pathway back.
The message resonated, and Ted Lasso became a beacon of hope and positivity in a world where both were in very short supply.
I have been thinking about that a lot this week.
How could I not? After a three-year hiatus, Ted Lasso has returned to Apple TV, and the airwaves, streams, podcasts, and social media have been full of Jason Sudeikis and his castmates promoting the new season.
It is also the sixth anniversary of Elaine joining me in the United States. Words are inadequate to describe the joy, relief, and love I felt when I saw her emerge from customs. It was, and will forever be, one of the best moments of my life.
And then there was the attempted political lynching of Anthony Fauci by Rand Paul and his Senate committee.
The same Rand Paul who spent much of the pandemic fighting mask mandates and arguing that herd immunity was taking hold even as tens of thousands of Americans were dying each month, hundreds of thousands more were getting sick, hospitals were overflowing, and refrigerated trailers were being used as temporary morgues. The same Rand Paul who pressed federal health officials to give greater consideration to unproven early COVID treatments, including ivermectin and hydroxychloroquine—neither of which proved to be the cure their most enthusiastic advocates hoped for.
Fauci, meanwhile, was already one of the most prominent infectious-disease scientists in the world decades before 2020. He led NIAID for 38 years, from 1984 to 2022, overseeing research on HIV/AIDS, tuberculosis, malaria, influenza, Ebola, Zika, and eventually COVID-19. He helped shape the federal response to HIV/AIDS as it went from an almost invariably fatal disease to a manageable chronic illness. He advised seven presidents and received both the National Medal of Science and the Presidential Medal of Freedom. And during the pandemic, he was willing to contradict the president publicly when the president wandered into medical fantasyland—whether musing about disinfectant or promoting treatments before the evidence was there.
In other words, he was one of the people who gave us reason to believe that science would eventually get us out of the mess.
Why did Rand Paul decide to pillory Fauci? Some of it seems personal. Paul has a long history of hitting back hard at people who insult or challenge him. Ask John McCain, Chris Christie, Markwayne Mullin—or Fauci himself, who famously told Paul, “You do not know what you are talking about.”
But mostly, this looked like political theater: a chance for Republicans to score points and energize their base before the midterms. They wanted Fauci as a symbol. When he invoked the Fifth Amendment rather than answer questions in a hearing chaired by a senator who had spent years calling for his prosecution, the committee moved to hold him in contempt and send the matter to the Justice Department.
So why did all of this remind me of Ted Lasso?
When Ted Lasso first entered the zeitgeist, we were in a very dark place as a country. We were desperate for someone—or something—to latch on to. Something that could give us hope. Something that could help us believe there was a better way ahead.
The Fauci hearing reinforced something I already knew: our country is in another dark place, one where political ideology too often outweighs common sense and fact, and where greed, selfishness, ego, and grievance get celebrated more loudly than kindness, selflessness, and understanding.
That August, Elaine walked out of customs and Ted Lasso walked onto my television. One was the person I loved coming home. The other was a fictional football coach reminding me why hope matters. I needed both.
Six years later, Congress is once again serving grievance with a side of theater. Ted is back too. Good timing.
Because optimism isn’t pretending the ugliness isn’t there. It is refusing to let the ugliness have the last word.
Sam Obisanya’s father put it better: “Don’t fight back. Fight forward.”
And that may be the lesson we need most right now. Hope is not passive. Belief is not surrender. If we want a different country, we have to fight for it — in our communities, in our conversations, and at the ballot box. And if we want to change the direction of this country, we need to fight forward and win the midterms.
So be curious. Be decent. Remember what matters. Fight forward.
And when Washington becomes impossible to watch, be a goldfish.
But not until after you vote.










The Powerball Presidency
I had a rough week last week.
I was not the winner of the $1 billion dollar Powerball lottery.
All the fantasies I had about being able to fly to Brazil on a private jet sipping champagne with Rosie at my feet, gone. I would not be able to buy niece Cate the horse stable she richly deserved. Nor immortalize my parents in a foundation that supports immigrant education. Or live on a ship that took me to whatever destination whimsy told me I should go to. Create a micro loan nonprofit that benefited single working mothers in the US to help them start businesses. Lend meaningful support to political candidates whose vision for this country whose intent was to lift people up not create a permanent underclass.
I could go on. But you get the idea. All the fantasies you have after you buy your lottery ticket and before the drawing reveals the winning number.
On the morning after heartbreak, I was on the Stairmaster at the gym contemplating the tragedy that had just befallen me. If you are unfamiliar with this apparatus, it was clearly designed out of some Munchian nightmare where you are condemned to walk up an endless flight of stairs. It is torture. The only way I found to make even the least bit tolerable is to use one of the features of this machine called the monument challenge. It allows you to challenge yourself by climbing to the top of various skyscrapers around the world. That morning my goal was to climb the 117 flights to the top of the Empire State building.
The only way to survive this torture is to let your body do what your body needs to do and send you brain into a different direction. I get some of my best thinking done while climbing these virtual buildings.
On this morning, I was doing a little self-comforting. Not winning the lottery was certainly a disappointment but I am doing okay. My wife is smart, beautiful and funny. I live in a nice town. I have an apartment that is more than is more comfortable. I live on two continents and have a dog who likes to sleep on my toes when I write. I don’t worry about where the next meal is coming from as demonstrated by the fact that I am on this nightmare machine trying to keep the pounds from multiplying.
It occurred to me that I have been very fortunate in life. I grew up at a time where the American dream was still alive. A country that believed that everyone who worked hard would be successful. Who on the heals of the great depression had created programs to make sure every kid had the opportunity for a good education, could go to college and get a degree without committing financial seppuku. If you were poor we would make sure you had enough food on your table until you could take care of yourself and where a medical emergency didn’t result in you having to live in your car or on the streets.
We were a generous people who took care of those less fortunate that us because the Great Depression taught us that “other than a grace of god go I.”
Somewhere about the 20th floor I happened to look up at one of the monitors that fronted the Stairmasters and saw the Combover Cesar. I will be honest. I looked away. Looking at him is hard enough generally but when I am on the edge of exhaustion he is too much.
But sadly, he invaded my thoughts.
It made me think about how the Duke of Deflection had perverted the American Dreams. Instead of helping people up he has done all he could to keep people down. Some examples:
Meanwhile, he has helped the rich get richer. To name just a couple
And the carried-interest preference still allows many investment managers to have compensation taxed as capital gains rather than ordinary income if the statutory requirements are met. Because if there is one group America has historically failed to protect, it is private-equity managers.
The American Dream, Trump Edition
By the time I reached the upper floors of my imaginary Empire State Building, it occurred to me that Trump has not really abandoned the American Dream. He has simply revised it. In his version, the dream is not that every American should have a fair chance to become prosperous.
It is that Donald Trump should have a fair chance to become even more prosperous while serving as president.
The numbers are difficult to dismiss as mere political rhetoric. Trump’s latest financial disclosures show enormous income from crypto, licensing, golf clubs and other businesses.
Reuters has estimated that the Trump family has made billions from crypto ventures since he returned to the White House, including hundreds of millions from the $TRUMP meme coin. At one point, the top holders of that coin were even rewarded with a private dinner with the President of the United States. In the old days, rich people bought a table at a fundraiser. Progress means now you can buy a meme coin and perhaps get the President with dessert.
Then there is World Liberty Financial, the Trump-family crypto venture, foreign-backed investments and licensing deals bearing the family name. None of this proves that every presidential decision was made to enrich the Trump family, and the White House denies conflicts of interest.
That may be the clearest definition of Trump’s American Dream. Cut the ladder for the people below you. Build an escalator for the people above you. And make damn sure the escalator stops at the gift shop, where everything has your name on it.
I reached the 117th floor exhausted, sweaty and still not a billionaire. But I did come away with one comforting thought: apparently, I had misunderstood the lottery. The Powerball drawing was not the game I needed to win. I should have run for president.
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